Newly adopted approximately 1.5 year old female to household with 12.5 -year-old male.





I have a 12.5 year old male tabby (Kyle) that I adopted with his sister (Maxine) when they were kittens. Maxine died last July of cancer. I had a very close relationship with her, was devastated at her loss and have just now been able to think about adopting another female, realizing that it might be difficult to bring another cat into the household with Kyle. While passing through Petco pet adoptions on a Saturday two weeks ago, I spotted a female (April) whose appearance was similar to Maxine's. She had just recently had a litter, was rescued from the shelter by our local rescue group and was spayed. April is a small cat, approximately 6-7 pounds. Kyle is 11-12 pounds, very affectionate and not aggressive. My concern was for the new female's safety coming into Kyle's environment. To make a long story short, although Kyle growled and hissed a lot, that's all he did, and he eventually was able to get close to April. April, on the other hand, is an aggressive, dominant female, who has just about restricted Kyle from every one of his familiar spots in the house. I love April and want to keep her, but I have to lock her up at night and when I leave so that she does not terrorize Kyle, who turns tail and runs whenever she "charges" him. I've sprayed water, I've done time-outs in the cage for April. I've put both in a room, each in a cage facing each other, for an hour or so. While they have (out of the cages), under my supervision, appeared to co-exist peacefully, lying on the bed together with me, in the same room together with me for extended periods of time, just when I think we're making progress, April always goes back to attack mode on Kyle (usually unexpectedly) and when he runs, she gets even more crazy and flings herself like a whirling dirvish at him. He's miserable, I'm miserable, and April is spending a lot of time-outs in a separate room. It's been two weeks, and while I want April to stay, I love and feel the need to protect my Kyle. I'm not ready to throw in the towel, but if things don't change soon, I may have to give up on this adoption. Any clues as to what I might try. April shows absolutely no aggression/ hostility toward people, is very affectionate. It almost seems as though she has multiple personalities. Is it possible she's mentally disturbed, or is her behavior perhaps a result of her background outdoors (perhaps feral ?) versus Kyle's protective environment since kittenhood in one home? Help please. 

Bigbird, it sounds like April is quite a handful.  Cats like to make use of as much as thier surroundings as possible when they play to provide them with  physical and mental challenges.  Especially if something or someone (Kyle) moves!  Running, jumping and attacking allows them to keep up on thier hunting food or escaping the enemy skills even though they do not need them.  It is hard to say if April does more of this because of where she came from.  It is harder for a cat who has been outside to adjust to being strictly indoor verse your Kyle who is accustomed to his lifestyle. 

Separating the cats is a great choice for safety.  You may try increasing the confinement time for April to a 24 hour period.  Give her her own room with food, water and litter and plenty of toys.  Make sure she has several toys that challenge her mentally.  Things to climb on like a tall cat jungle gym.  A turbo scratcher is also a great toy to keep kitties busy.   During her time outs give Kyle some extra special attention.  Sometimes introducing new cats in to the house can take weeks to months for things to settle.  Keep trying and keep us posted!

Marcie Whidden
PetDoc.com

Our household is experiencing almost exactly the same set of circumstances as BigBird.  About 18 months ago we adopted a 1 1/2 year-old spayed female tabby as a "replacement" for a deceased litter mate of our then 10-year old male.  We've tried to socialize them for the last 18 months with no sucess.  Dahlia got out of her room this past weekend and attacked Otis.  That was nearly the final straw.  We called the shelter from which we adopted Dahlia this morning to discuss a return. We were encouraged to consult with a local vet who specializes in cat behavior.  Not wanting to send her back to an uncertain life (the shelter is no-kill) we're going to try it.  The only difference with our situation is that Dahlia is a bit of a biter.  She craves attention and affection.  When you stop petting her she'll nip the hand she wants to you to pet her with.  Wish us luck.

Mark Matousek, Kansas

 



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